How to handle your teenager?

Teenage is the most crucial period of a human being’s life. It during this period a person undergoes both biological changes and emotional issues, so its upon the parents to support, love, care their child and to make them a living example to others of their same age. It’s a period of confusion, where the teens think they are adults and the parents treat them as their baby. What the parents have to know is that... your son/daughter is no more a baby and what the kids have to know is that they are not all grown up. Teenage can also be called as a fragile and handle with care stage of a persons’ life.

Parents often say that it’s hard to manage a teenager. Well, it’s not that hard. Read on … I hope this article would be of some help… If you got a thought, do share...

1. Show affection- they still need an encouraging pat.

2. Be an Active listener- Give them a lot of attention. Sit with them everyday, talk to them about their studies, friends, activities. Show them that you genuinely care about what happening with them. Assure them that they can come to you and talk to you whenever they have a problem. Treat them as your friend and respect them

3. No scolding – Don’t scold them especially in front of the friends. That’s the biggest insult, if you want to do so... do it privately not in front of their friends or others. Talk to them about the problems faced by other teens, tell them the consequences of getting into bad habit and or a trouble... tell them how it would change, ruin, control their lives. This would help your child know what is right and what is wrong.

4. Trust them – Give them responsibilities they can handle, Tell them what you expect from them. While making a family decision ask their suggestions, this would give your teenager confidence. Get to know their friends and be friends with them. It’s important for you to know which type of peer group your child is with. As friends influence your child’s behavior to the maximum

5. No lies - Don’t ever lie to them as you would be setting a bad example, most teenagers are likely to act like their parents. If you lie to them, they lie back to you.

6. No quarrels -Don’t quarrel with your spouse in front of them, as the teen would feel ashamed of you and are likely to quarrel with you.

7. No Bossing -Don’t try to boss over them or beat them. If you want them to do something for you, ask them politely. If you have a positive relation with your teenager, you could assign them work and monitor them without been intrusive.

8. No comparison- Don’t compare them with someone else’s kid or your own as they would feel insecure, hurt and would start to dislike you. When you are comparing, it makes the teen feel that you hate your kid… Some teenagers would then try to be like the other teenager or would turn out worse, its better not to take the risk.

9. No Detective work- Don’t be a detective in knowing their inner secrets. They would hate you if you go through their stuff... in order for you teen to open up... be a friend... as it would help establish a better relationship between you both.. I know detective work is required in certain cases; one way you can do is ask your teen to help you while cleaning his or her room. So you won’t be blamed as you were going through their stuff while they were away.

10. No overprotection -Don’t be overprotective as they are independent, some teens don’t mind parents been over protective but it would impact the teen in a bad way, the teen would be dependent, low esteem, low confidence and would not be able to take care of them when they are adults and would always require someone or their parents to do everything for them and would blame you for been overprotective.

If this article is read by a teenager, send your parents a link so they can read and understand. If it’s read by a parent, try to put these tips into use. Have a nice day!! Be a proud child and a parent.

Guard against Burglary

How does a burglar know that the members of a house have gone out?

I have listed few things you should keep in mind while you are going out for a short while or a vacation.




1 .While going out for an evening, leave some lights on... It shows the house is occupied... Leaving just one room with lights doesn’t help... If you could also leave the radio or the television on, it would surely doubt the burglar...

2. If you are leaving for a vacation, have the mail or other deliveries like magazine, milk held or suspended for a while.

3. Get your phone disconnected so that on the spot telephone check to find out if you are at home, can’t be made. Never give information to anonymous people who say that they are calling from insurance companies, banks for a meeting or you won a lottery and when you will be able to collect the prize, give only if you are sure or you might be giving your “when-you-will-be-at-home” information to the wrong person.

4. Inform the neighbors when you are going out so that they can keep an eye on your property. In case, you got an emergency and you had to leave your kids alone, ask the neighbor to keep an eye and do instruct your kids not to answer the doors when strangers knock (As burglars are like shape shifters – may act as a carpenter, electrician, plumper).

5. Don’t leave the house keys under the door/welcome mat or flower pot as they are the common areas of search.

6. If the members of the house are returning at different times, don’t leave the keys (Refer 5), its better to make extra keys or give your house key to your neighbor.

7. Ask your servant to clean up your courtyard daily and pick up the flyers as untidy courtyard shows that the members are out.

8. Draw the drapes/curtains of the house, if the inside of the house is visible to the outsiders and do not place any of your valuable items near the window.

9. Ask your neighbor or servant to turn off the lighted entrance in the morning and turn it on during the evening, if the lights are left on in the morning and off at night, it shows there is no one in the house or you could set a timer that would turn on or off the lights (Use low voltage lights as you can save electricity).

10. If your area is free from shoe thieves, you could leave some of your cheap slippers outside, it shows the people are in the house.

11. Never leave a note on door explaining why you are not at home.

12. Never leave any tools or ladder outside the house as it would help the burglar to break in.

Start a neighborhood watch, get a security or install a burglary alarm if the burglary rate is high. The points above are some of the things you should keep in mind. If you got a tip, do share. Have a nice day!